White Momma Needs Help!

Ok, I am admitting white momma failure here! Toben's head is horrible! He is all dry and flaky. John was washing his hair every other day, which I think is probably too often. So we are switching to once a week (although this morning the pediatrician told us to wash it every day, I'm not sure she knows what she is talking about!). I have tried two different types of lotion and even vaseling (because that is what the PA at our pediatrician had recommended). So suggestions for getting rid of flaky scalps is greatly appreciated! Maybe this is why I don't have a girl! :)