So I am reading reports and evaluations on some kiddos today in hopes of one of my families being a great match as a forever family. This is one of the hardest parts of my jobs. I have to read all that these kids have suffered before, and often after, they came into the system we call child "protection". One particular answer by one of the children has left me in a puddle of tears at my desk. She is less than 10, and is asked why she came into care. Her answer: "Because I lied about something."
Oh Jesus, how? How do we do this to our children? This precious child of God beleives in her heart that she is in a system that moves her every few months because of something she did! I am sure worker after worker, and therapist after therapist have told her numerous times that she is in care because of nothing that she did! But you see these kids are ripe for the enemy's taking! Because of what the adults in their lives have done or chosen over them, they have a huge void that the enemy runs in and says "It's all your fault!" They believe in the core of themselves that they are so horendous that no one could love them...not even their own mother or father.
But my tears don't stop for just her, although I could cry a river just on that alone. My tears stream down my face for all of my friends who are loving these kids! You see when these kids come into our homes, they are there not because of anything that is their own fault, but becuase of choices of others. And because of those choices of others, these children behave in ways that can be very hurtful. They don't know how to love. They don't know how to trust. They don't know how to receive love either. They didn't deserve what these adults did to them...
And the ripple does not stop with these kids. It now extends to foster and adoptive moms and dads and brothers and sisters who are trying with all that is within them to love this little girl! Yet in return they get "I hate you!" or they get little jabs like "I love you but not as much as my real mom" or "you're not my family". Oh friends, they don't mean it! And even if on some level they do mean it, they don't understand what they are saying! ...and you don't deserve what the decicions of these adults are not doing to you and your family as you once knew it!
Stay the course! Do something to give yourself some oxygen! But don't believe the lies the enemy has told these kids and now wants to scream at you too! You may very well be the only Jesus they see! You may be the only true, unconditional love they ever know. So when they have ripped your heart out, torn it into a million pieces and thrown the pieces back in your face, will you gather those pieces up and take them to your Heavenly Father who sees and knows your pain. Will you allow Him to mend your heart so that you can then help mend theirs?! She believes she is in your home because she lied about something...and she believes as soon as she does something just bad enough to you, she will move again. Hold on moms and dads! Hold those wounded children and show them the love they may not even know they need.
And if you are not one of these moms or dads loving these children who are in or have been in our foster system, go find someone who is! Take them a meal, but even better yet, do what you need to in order to give them a child free night just so they can breath again! Yes, they need prayer, but they need so much more than just your prayers! They need Jesus with skin on!
And if you are not one of these moms and dads, but God has been calling you into this crazy thing we call adoption, DO IT! There is a girl who thinks she is in the system because she lied about something! She needs you to teach her the Truth of God's unconditional and merciful love! She needs that Truth not just to heal and survive the cruel world she has lived in for her short life, but she needs it to secure her eternity! If not you, then who?
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